For Families Archives - Heather Hayes & Associates https://heatherhayes.com/tag/for-families/ Interventions & Treatment Consulting Thu, 07 May 2026 09:43:48 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.4 https://heatherhayes.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/cropped-HH_logo-32x32.png For Families Archives - Heather Hayes & Associates https://heatherhayes.com/tag/for-families/ 32 32 How Families Choose an Interventionist https://heatherhayes.com/how-families-choose-an-interventionist/ Thu, 07 May 2026 09:43:48 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/?p=7538 A Trauma Responsive and Family Systems Guide to one of the Most Important Decisions a Family will Make When a family reaches the point of considering an intervention, they are rarely calm, rested, or thinking clearly.  They are exhausted. Often they have spent months or years trying everything they can imagine, including conversations, pleading, ultimatums, […]

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]]> Building Family Connection and Secure Attachment: Foundations, Disruptions, and Tools for Healing https://heatherhayes.com/building-family-connection-and-secure-attachment-foundations-disruptions-and-tools-for-healing/ Wed, 24 Sep 2025 07:00:53 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/?p=7100 Healthy families are built on two fundamental pillars: connection and attachment. When these are strong, family members feel safe, seen, and valued, which fosters emotional resilience, trust, and overall well-being. When disrupted, however, individuals can struggle with lifelong emotional regulation, relational difficulties, and mental health challenges. Below, we explore the foundations of family connection and […]

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]]> The Importance of Safety in Healing Family Dynamics: Insights from Judith Herman and Steven Porges https://heatherhayes.com/the-importance-of-safety-in-healing-family-dynamics-insights-from-judith-herman-and-steven-porges/ Wed, 17 Sep 2025 07:00:33 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/?p=7091 Safety is a fundamental prerequisite for healing within any family system, particularly for members who have experienced emotional abuse. The pioneering work of Judith Herman and Steven Porges highlights the critical role of safety in the recovery process. Their essay explores the importance of safety, drawing on Herman’s work on trauma and recovery and Porges’ […]

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]]> The Power of Expectation: Bowlby’s Theory, Coping Patterns, and the Family System https://heatherhayes.com/the-power-of-expectation-bowlbys-theory-coping-patterns-and-the-family-system/ Fri, 05 Sep 2025 07:00:28 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/?p=7065 “What cannot be communicated to the [parent] cannot be communicated to the self.” — John Bowlby, Attachment and Loss (1980) British psychoanalyst John Bowlby, best known for founding attachment theory, proposed that the expectations children form about themselves and others are deeply shaped by early relational experiences. Often overlooked within his broader framework is his […]

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]]> Family Systemic Therapy and the Role of Family Involvement in Adolescent Treatment https://heatherhayes.com/family-systemic-therapy-and-the-role-of-family-involvement-in-adolescent-treatment/ Wed, 13 Aug 2025 07:00:30 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/?p=7059 Family Systemic Therapy is a therapeutic approach that views the family as a system in which each member affects the others. This framework, largely developed by pioneers in the field such as Salvador Minuchin, Carl Whitaker, and Jay Haley, emphasises the importance of involving family members in therapeutic interventions, especially when treating adolescents.  Adolescents often […]

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]]> Is “Birth Order” Theory a Myth? Unpacking the Role of Siblings in Family Systems https://heatherhayes.com/is-birth-order-theory-a-myth-unpacking-the-role-of-siblings-in-family-systems/ Thu, 22 May 2025 19:05:15 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/?p=6990 What does it mean to be the eldest daughter, the youngest son, or the “middle child” of a family? These are terms that we often use to describe ourselves and others; their broad and folkloric connotations have even made their way into online meme culture.  Generally speaking, birth order theories are based on the idea […]

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]]> The Importance of Clinically-Informed Therapeutic Recovery Companions https://heatherhayes.com/the-importance-of-clinically-informed-therapeutic-recovery-companions/ Wed, 26 Feb 2025 08:00:08 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/from-abduction-trauma-to-healing-rethinking-adolescent-transport-through-a-trauma-responsive-lens-copy/ In a society where mental health issues, substance use disorders, and eating disorders are on the rise, the need for dedicated support systems is more crucial than ever. Therapeutic recovery companions have emerged as a vital resource for individuals navigating these challenges, offering one-on-one support that helps to bridge the gap between clinical treatment and […]

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]]> From Abduction Trauma to Healing: Rethinking Adolescent Transport Through a Trauma-Responsive Lens https://heatherhayes.com/from-abduction-trauma-to-healing-rethinking-adolescent-transport-through-a-trauma-responsive-lens/ Wed, 05 Feb 2025 11:31:10 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/the-paradox-of-impostor-syndrome-and-narcissistic-personality-disorder-overlapping-traits-and-concurrent-manifestations-copy/ For decades, the troubled teen industry has been criticized for its use of gooning—a practice where adolescents are forcibly removed from their homes in the middle of the night by hired transporters and taken to treatment centers. This process, often carried out without warning and using coercive force, has led many young people to describe […]

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]]> Dysfunctional Family Communication: The Role of Triangulation https://heatherhayes.com/dysfunctional-family-communication-the-role-of-triangulation/ Wed, 08 Jan 2025 09:56:24 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/the-importance-of-healthy-closure-in-relationships-friendships-partnerships-and-beyond-copy/ Family communication is a crucial aspect of relational dynamics, significantly influencing the emotional and psychological well-being of its members. In healthy family systems, communication is direct, clear, and respectful, fostering understanding and emotional support. However, dysfunctional family communication can lead to various issues, including confusion, resentment, and emotional distress. One particularly pernicious form of dysfunctional […]

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]]> The Importance of Healthy Closure in Relationships: Friendships, Partnerships, and Beyond https://heatherhayes.com/the-importance-of-healthy-closure-in-relationships-friendships-partnerships-and-beyond/ Mon, 30 Dec 2024 08:00:10 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/home-for-the-holidays-navigating-communication-in-family-systems-copy/ If you do not say goodbye, you cannot say hello. In a world where connections—whether romantic, platonic, or therapeutic—are central to our lives, the significance of healthy closure often goes unrecognized. While relationships begin with excitement and promise, their endings can be complex and emotionally fraught. Unfortunately, many people tend to avoid healthy closure, leaving […]

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]]> Home for the Holidays: Navigating Communication in Family Systems https://heatherhayes.com/home-for-the-holidays-navigating-communication-in-family-systems/ Wed, 18 Dec 2024 08:00:04 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/unraveling-complex-diagnoses-the-intersection-of-attachment-disorder-complex-ptsd-imposter-syndrome-and-narcissistic-personality-disorder-copy/ During the winter holidays, many people get together with their families to enjoy festivities and share warmth and light during the darker winter months. In many cases, these are joyful reunions as parents and siblings who may not have seen each other in a long time get to catch up and share stories and experiences. […]

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]]> Parenting Neurodivergent Teens: Making Space for Differences https://heatherhayes.com/parenting-neurodivergent-teens-making-space-for-differences/ Wed, 11 Dec 2024 08:00:20 +0000 https://heatherhayes.com/parenting-neurodivergent-teens-making-space-for-differences-copy/ The term neurodivergent has seen increasing use in popular culture and on social media in recent years. This word is meant as a term that broadly encapsulates a range of mental health conditions where there are natural variations in the brain’s information-processing mechanisms. These include dyslexia, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), autism spectrum disorder (ASD) […]

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